Learn This My Son

Learn This My Son

 

Learn this my son: they are called “loved ones” for a reason.

Love them with all your heart.

Say you love them as often as you can; show that you love them always.

Put them first before yourself.

When you are famished offer them food.

When you thirst ask if they would like something to drink.

This is the kind of man you ought to be.

Your family will cherish you for it.

 

Learn this my son: it is called hard work because it is hard.

Is what you are doing hard?

Then you’re probably doing it right.

Persevere!

Do not shirk away from your duty.

Chip at it like the mason working on his prized sculpture.

Remember to always aspire!

Visualise, my boy!

Plan ahead before you set your chisel against the stone, lest your eagerness ruin the masterpiece long before it is realised.

Do this and your goals will be achievable.

 

Learn this my son: stay away from negative influence.

Anything that clouds your judgement blocks your route to success.

Read!

Surround yourself with people with clear agendas, with goals as high or even greater than your own.

Learn from them.

In their presence do not speak the loudest, instead listen the most; this is how you’ll grow.

 

Learn this my son: yesterday was yesterday.

Yesterday is gone.

Tomorrow you will be one day closer to heaven than you are today.

Do not be afraid! Be excited!

You know now that you have limited time… make the most of it!

Live every moment!

Push as if you’ll never push again.

Strive to your maximum at every attempt.

Do this and you will have no regrets.

Do this and you will be content.

 

Learn this my son: laugh.

I cannot stress this enough,

Laugh!

This way the aforementioned ‘stress’ will not be enough to stop you.

Laugh in the face of adversity, your family will cherish you for it.

Laugh, for that is how they will know they will get through it.

Laugh while you do all that I have taught you and your days shall be long and joyful…

 

Learn this my son: I am but a man and I teach what I have witnessed with my own eyes.

Your true guide awaits you to find Him.

Search for Him for He has knowledge far beyond my capabilities.

Learn how to be a father from Him, He is the greatest Father of all.

He will help you find one to share your love and laughter with.

He will give you direction and strength.

He will show you where opportunities lie.

He will endow you with wisdom, my boy.

My son, do all of this and you will make me undoubtedly proud.

Do this and I will be as proud as a man can be.

 

Excerpt from ‘Bleeding Heart’

Thanks For Teaching Me How To Love

“How?” he asks beyond incredulous at this point. “You’ve seen the statistics, you watch the news, you talk to you people, your friends, clients, classmates… So tell me, how? How can you be so naïve? Why do you still believe? It just doesn’t work.”

My answer?

“Ah… but it does. I’ve seen it.”

I’m sure you know the saying: monkey see monkey do. I’ll be the last to call myself a monkey but kids do learn a lot from seeing their parents/guardians in action. I will have you know, this guy’s been doing a lot of seeing, this guy’s been doing a lot watching – when your guard was up or when it was down. I was listening when the words were smooth. I was listening even when annoyance had long barged in. I was learning – I still am – how one ought to love and how one ought to accept being loved.

As your son I’d like to utter words that might seem odd to you now but ring true nonetheless. You’ve done a stellar job! Thank you… and I’m so proud of you. I need look no further for a greater example of how I want my marriage to be. Yes the journey is still ongoing but you’ve done real good so far, hontou ni (there’s that Japanese becoming useful). Obviously this is from my selfish point of view but I hope you keep it up… so your grandkids can learn this lesson from me, their mom… and from you too.

It’s because of you that I can say these words with ease and with meaning. I love you 🙂

So… to my heroes, to my parents, to my inspiration –

Happy anniversary