Quality >>>

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“And also!” Ding ding ding. You’ve just lost. What am I talking about? Your afterthought doesn’t have the impact all the other words you said prior did. This is something I can finally say I’ve practised in my life and seen it work wonders.

As someone who thought a good friendship meant long ass conversations everyday for a long time I feel qualified to let you know. STOP IT! RIGHT NOW! 

It’s not the quantity that matters insomuch as it is the quality.

Don’t fall into the trap of confusing the two. Find out why some kids run to that parent when they get home from work yet they don’t run to the person they’ve stayed with the whole time.

There is a time and a place for everything including small talk. Move away from conversations designed to take up time and move towards constructive, challenging conversation that will build both you and the person you’re talking to.

“It’s not easy to come up with something profound to say everyday,” you may whine. That’s good. And it’s also correct. It is hard. There is an antidote for it though.

You ready?

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See you tomorrow!

Stay awesome.

We Are Not In This Together

If you were a teen or younger during the late 2000s you probably know of the famous High School Musical song. It’s full of youthful enthusiasm and pubescent fever but if we’re honest with ourselves the message is errant. We are not in this together. Before you pick up your pitchforks I’ll let you know I’m not afraid of sharp objects… just please make sure the prongs aren’t rusty, tetanus ain’t pretty. Human beings need a social life – that’s a given, however the assumption that numbers = completion is mistaken. Each genuine relationship formed requires some form of investment. The word investment means ‘taking something out of you’. Unless you are a deity, the amount of ‘something’ you possess to give is limited. When that pressure makes you reach breaking point you’ll probably become stressed (coz that is what stress means).

Good news! You don’t get stressed by an investment that you know pays you back! I’m not saying do things for people because you know they will pay you back, but I am saying that you don’t want to prioritise people and place them on a pedestal with responsibilities and expectations they will not fulfil. Doing so opens you up to a world of hurt. My suggestion? Spend time analysing people’s characters assessing their traits and measuring them up to the traits you would want in a close friend. Come to the realisation that once you make a decision, you own it – therefore be ok with the consequences of the negative traits you choose to overlook. Then approach those quality people and let them know where you wanna place them in your hierarchy of life – when you are both in the know of what you expect from each other you become accountable for how you behave and you don’t experience the conflict of expectations and reality misaligned. What about those other people in your life that it wouldn’t be so wise to invest all of your time in? You can keep ’em as acquaintances.

See you tomorrow for ‘Standing Alone’.