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“I hate my friends!”
Well then, you hate yourself. Birds of a feather flock together. That ain’t no smooth rhyming joke; that’s a fact, a truth, a reality. Unlike family you choose your friends. Why then would you choose someone who will antagonise you? Quick answer: you wouldn’t – at least not instinctively.
You don’t like the things your friends do? Here’s a tip, change the way you behave first. You wouldn’t have become friends if there weren’t similarities.
“No, but we’re different.”
Sure you are. We are all fearfully and wonderfully made but even then there are ideas and behaviours that we latch on to. Others who latch on to those become our friends – the people who we look for in a crowd… and unless you’re crazy, you don’t go looking for conflict in a crowd – you go looking for comfort, and one thing that makes comfort comfort is familiarity.
In short – why are you drawn to be friends with the people you are friends with? Because there is a sense of familiarity between them and yourself. A sense of… belonging. Now use that knowledge as you will.
See you tomorrow.
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We meet again! I’ve been expecting you. Today we’re having a look at friends and the role they can play in helping us out of our comfort zones.
This will be very simple, direct and plain (unlike most of the things that come out of my mind). Friends exert a pressure just by their mere presence which works to affect our behaviour and personality. Some of us have a high resistance to this pressure while others are more prone to go with this flow. Nevertheless that pressure to conform exists for everyone. If you over 12 you’ve absolutely heard this termed peer pressure.
Peer pressure in itself is neither good nor bad. What matters is that it exists. Its intended purpose is to get us aligned with the ideologies of those around us and, if used correctly, can be used for our benefit.
Bad company corrupts good morals. Birds of a feather flock together. One person said, “You are the average of the 5 people you associate with most.“
You wanna step out of your comfort zone? Associate with people that do things out of your comfort zone – preferably in the direction you want to go. Sooner or later you will find yourself doing just that, all because of peer pressure.
Now that’s the power of friendship.
Tomorrow we delve into ‘Communication‘. Trust me when (in my most professional lingo) I say, it’s going to be real dope.