Do you ever wake up and just feel totally depleted? Ever wonder how you’ve gone so far into the year and the days just seem to slip away without any progress? Lastly, do you ever just feel like you could sleep all day long and that would be bliss? You’re living life the wrong way my friend, so are most of us, including me. But I guess one has to learn to be able to share, right? In this post I’ll give you 7 points to avoid ever feeling like that again. I hope this rather long-winded (sorry about that) post can help you out with that.
One sunny school day I filled in a stress-meter test paper thinking I’d receive an A, you know, for being stress free. I mean, when you look at me and interact with me, I would like to think that you’ll find a carefree young man, as bubbly as a can of Cola; just as sweet, a little unhealthy but somehow (thankfully) not as dark. Not that being dark is a bad thing of course. I AM a lover chocolate *insert heart eyes*. Moving on, after completing this test I was shocked to find out that I’d failed. Now just so you know I’ve only just started learning to learn from failure ( that sentence in spite of its simplicity nearly broke my mind). Before, I wouldn’t accept failure and that can be both a good and bad thing but I’ll save that topic for another day. Turns out wishing you could sleep all day is indicative of high stress levels… Love for sleep shows stress… I couldn’t believe it. I LOVE sleep. Only after protracted explanations, proofs and documentation would I believe that wishing you could sleep for a week was a sign of stress.
Now don’t misunderstand me here, sleep is a gift. It gives your brain time to reorganise memories. It allows your body to rest, to regenerate – literally. Sleep is bliss – especially if you have pleasant dreams *wink wink*. Unfortunately it is too good. It offers an avenue to escape things that matter. It allows you to forget what you have to do during the day and what you failed to do during the previous 24 hours. Constantly seeking a way out of life is a sign of stress. Stress isn’t good (duh). Stress is synonymous with monotony. Monotony is synonymous with lack of goal-setting… and that’s what we have to address today. (God that was a long way round, wasn’t it?
“Ever wake up and feel depleted? Ever wonder how you’ve gone so far into the year and the days just seem to slip away? Worst of all, do you ever just feel like you could sleep all day long and that would be bliss?”
What if I told you you can stop feeling that starting tomorrow? You don’t believe me? You have every right not to, but just try out this simple thing and then complain afterwards if it doesn’t work for you. The comment section is all yours.
Part of the reason for stress is that lack of purpose. Purpose is something hard to define but we can break it down… to give yourself a tangible feeling of achieving purpose, set goals each day. I know this sounds ridiculously simple and the truth is, it is. It’s so ridiculously simple that because of it’s simplicity people refuse to believe that having set objectives will change anything. But guess what? It changes EVERYTHING. How do you feel you’ve progressed if you don’t have a mark to measure up to? How do you muster the will to achieve anything without setting a goal, a target? The most successful people, the ones you probably look up to have goals they have set for themselves. Sprinters set times they want to achieve. Footballers have a set number of literal goals they want to reach. Artists have a number of records they want to sell. The best architects have buildings they HAVE to realise. I know this is sounding preachy but it’s factual. Every great person has a great urge to achieve SOMETHING. I have decided to share this because I assume you want to be great, I know I do.
Well but that’s a long term goal, how does that help me from sleeping day in day out? I suggest you read my first blog post. If you realise that time isn’t as rigid as it seems you’ll feel the urgency you need to achieve your goal. But to help us get along let’s make a list to help us be on top of life:
- Write down daily goals the night before you go to bed, preferably with times too (so you try and stop procrastinating). *I emphasise on writing because it gives the plan a concreteness about it. Keeping the idea in the fluidity of thought will only make it easier to skimp out on the plan.
- Have a friend or a companion who will listen to you recount the day. This adds to the accountability factor and will help you give motion to your ideas as you learn to set goals daily.
- Draw up a long term vision that you would be proud of years from now.
- Speak about your vision aloud and often, in your room or shower, on the toilet seat – you name it. The more you say it, the more you believe you can do it, the more motivated you are to achieve it.
- Lastly invest time in achieving your goal. It makes no sense setting a goal then spending time doing things that won’t help you achieve that goal.
- Let the above be second nature to you such that when obstacles come in your way you have the will to overcome them.
- Sleep less. 8 hours is all you need, less as you grow older. Trust me the rest of achieving a goal is better than a week of sleep.
Life seems to give in to people that have a set vision, a goal and who chase after it like there’s no tomorrow. Be that person.
It took quite a bit of deliberating to come up with the title. I wish I’d planned it when I’d first conceived the idea of this blog post a couple of days ago. Yes, a couple of days ago. Knowing that and if you have read my last (and first) entry you will know that I failed to do something of vital importance, namely living in the moment. This dilemma offers me the chance to do one of two things: I could either justify myself by making an excuse or suck it up, learn from it and press on. The frequency of upcoming blog posts will alert you as to which option I would have chosen.