This would have been more appropriately labelled ‘Friendship Material’ but I attended Harvard classes in the Art Of Clickbait so this is what you get.
Based on our current source material, ‘Relational Intelligence’ by Judah Smith and Dharius Daniels, I have today 5 Key Signs of A Good Friend. Use these to vet your people and check yourself.
- Unshakeable character. This is built on the belief that there is no such thing as a neutral relationship and that every relationship either builds or destroys. The character of your friend can become your crisis. Consider someone who is known for being jealous of others or lying. If your relationship ever hits a rocky patch, and many real relationships do, you’ll need to worry about that. On the other hand if your friend doesn’t exhibit any of these traits with other people, you need not worry about it resurfacing against you.
- A friend loves at all times. These are friends that aim for your highest good. This means that they can discern when to give advice and when to “touch our wounds with gentle hands”.
- Unbridled honesty. I’ve been blessed to have friends that don’t mince their words for my self-esteem. You know that these people accept you for you and therefore you can trust their truths about you. These are the people you want to have with you so that they can point out the blind spot of your Johari window.
- Unmoveable reality. Friends like these exhibit high dependibility and trustworthiness. They are predictable (in the best possible way). The good thing about this trait is that it leaves clues for you to discover.
- Unceasing encouragement. These friends help lift you up. Oftentimes when we hear the term “helper” we instantly think of a spouse or mate for life, but friends can be our helpers too, in that they can be vehicles that help us achieve growth and purpose.
This is a summarised list of the benefits of having a real, genuine friend. I highly recommend reading the book ‘Relational Intelligence’ for yourself, or if you’ve never opened an audible account, getting it as your first audiobook for FREE here: Relational Intelligence Audiobook.